Last year, in the circle of friends, I saw a story about living cohabitation before marriage, and was almost angry with cerebral hemorrhage.
Girl Xiao Liu lives together with her boyfriend.
In the two years of living together, the two had a quarrel, but the overall feelings were harmonious and sweet.
As a result, Xiao Liu proposed to get married.
However, as soon as the boyfriend heard of marriage and colorful ceremony, he raised his face, and sometimes even black faces.
Although her boyfriend was not willing, under the repeated request of Xiao Liu, the parents of both sides met.
Unexpectedly, this meeting caused Xiao Liu’s heart to fall into the ice valley.
Xiao Liu’s parents proposed a gift of 60,000 yuan and made it clear that they would post tens of thousands of dollars as a dowry on the basis of these 60,000 yuan.
However, her boyfriend’s mother said that she said: Chi) said:
"We won’t pay a penny. What do you have to ask for a few years of sleeping with my son for a few years?"
Translate this sentence–
"You have been slept by my son, and do you want to be a gift?"
Are you listening, is this a human being?
I feel angry when I look at this sentence across the screen, not to mention Xiao Liu and her parents heard in person!
Seeing a boyfriend who was not talking, Xiao Liu was completely cold.
This is good, and the blessed girl does not enter this kind of blessing.
Xiao Liu was settled, and domineering said, "I don’t want to marry a family like you!"
Later, Xiao Liu left with his parents resolutely.
The story is here, people have to think about a question–
Should I live before marriage?
It is common to live in a current society before marriage.
According to the survey data before marriage, it shows:
76.11%of men and 42.86%of women in favor of pre -marital cohabitation.
From the data, it is not difficult to see that women are more cautious in the issue of cohabitation before marriage.
The reason behind it is simple. The trial cost of women’s cohabitation before marriage is much higher than that of men.
After graduating from the previous article, Liu chose to live with her boyfriend before graduating.
As a result, when talking about marriage, she was humiliated by her prejudiced mother -in -law.
Such cases are not rare in reality.
Also choose to live together before marriage, men are rarely pointed out and criticized, and women are often posted by secular prejudice –
"Don’t check the point", "falling price", "not love" and other labels.
In addition, women must also bear the risk of physical and mental injury caused by accidental pregnancy.
And once you break up before you get married, you will be minded by the other party in the next relationship.
In short, from the perspective of the situation of public opinion or physiological structure, before the topic of cohabitation, women are at a disadvantage than men.
This is why many women are more cautious.
However, although most women are cautious, many women are still worried that they will not agree that they will be broken up before marriage.
As a result, I made a choice of violations.
In the movie "Perfect Stranger", her daughter Sophia was disturbed by her boyfriend when she was invited by her boyfriend.
Therefore, she sought her father’s opinion.
After the father knew, he said to her:
"Don’t go because he is unhappy. This is not the only reason. This is a very important moment in your life. If you think of this in the future, you will laugh at the corner of your mouth, then you can do it.
However, if you don’t think so, or uncertain, forget it.Because you still have a lot of time."
After listening to his father’s words, Sophia chose not to go.
Similarly, if a woman is not sure or restlessly or not, it can choose to refuse.
In the relationship, it is destined to be disappointed as a bargaining chip for a person who retains a person before marriage.
Furthermore, the real affection of the test will not make trouble because one party refuses to live before marriage.
If so, it can only indicate that two people are inappropriate.
"Warring States Policy · Qi Ce three" said: "Things are gathered, people are divided into groups."
If the marriage feelings are not in line, why should it be humbled?
In fact, "cohabitation before marriage" does not have the so -called whether it should be, only willingness or not, it is not worth it.
If the reality is ignored, the benefits of living before the marriage without brain blow marriage, and then think that it is time to live before marriage, it is irresponsible.
However, while seeing the disadvantages of cohabitation before marriage, we must also admit that the chance of living together before marriage can- ——
1. Be able to know the more real other party, run in with each other in the trivial and ordinary chai oil and salt;
2. The direct confrontation of values and living habits to evaluate whether both parties are suitable;
3. Be able to recognize yourself more deeply through the other party and improve your personality;
4. Can enter the new role faster after marriage.
In short, we have to see both the disadvantages, and we must realize that it has a positive side.
In the current society, the cost of marriage is high, and the cost of divorce is higher.
When I was together before marriage, I found that the "true face" of the other party was incompatible with myself, so I chose to leave.
This is a kind of trial and error in a sense.
It helped us avoid an inappropriate and unhealthy marriage relationship.
Only by rationally looking at the two -sided nature of living before marriage can we measure from the heart when facing the cohabitation before marriage-
Wish or not, it is worthwhile to make a deserved choice.
No matter how you choose to live together or different before marriage, there is nothing wrong with it.
It has no right or wrong, and there is no distinction between height, only left and right.
In this world, there are so many people and so many different values.
It is precisely because of the difference that the world is so colorful and full of vitality.
In short, it doesn’t matter right or wrong, we are just different.
If you mind living before marriage and the behavior is relatively conservative, then find someone who also supports together after marriage.
If you don’t mind living cohabitation before marriage and think that cohabitation before marriage is more conducive to finding true love, then find someone who also does not mind the same before marriage.
Before marriage, it is a choice, a right of everyone, and the freedom of everyone.
It has never been or not, but it is worthwhile to be willing.
Here, I sincerely wish everyone that no matter what choices, they are loyal to their hearts.
In the issue of emotion, it is affordable and lost.
